How to Increase Sexual Desire in Couple - Communication
About Sex

“… at some point all of us need to go out into the world to discover and to explore. That's the beginning of desire” – Esther Perel says. Pursuant to this idea it is a continuous effort of getting out of the well-known world into a new, unexplored one that may become a way of maintaining desire. And it is not mandatory that you change a partner in order to keep yourself from turning off this road. It is confidence about knowing the loved one to his/her fingertips that is to be changed. And it is not self-suggestion that we propose. It is looking for something new that we mean. Details...

How To Start A Threesome – The First Threesome Experience

a letter from newpl blog reader who is telling her story about a threesome sharing the memories of how it all started with the first threesome experiment Details...

Kinky Roots: Definitions of Ancient Kinks

It is impossible to draw a conclusion about which time is the kinkiest – that of ours with information disseminated throughout the Internet, or the antiquity in that the culture of sexual connoisseurship was only dawning and becoming an object of immortal treatises that specified shades of different feelings arising in kinky games. We are obviously not the ones who have invented sex; moreover we proceed to use the pleasure techniques that were authored yet by our most great-grandfathers and great-grandmothers. Details...

How To Talk About Sex: Sexual Conversation Starters

If you don’t have enough time to speak in sophisticated equivoques or in case the partner fails to get the hint you may proceed with questions that won’t make the atmosphere tense yet shall definitely specify your position: you want to talk about sex openly and raise issues to start a sexy conversation. In this case the list of questions may include the following: “Have you analyzed your kinks? Do you know your fetishes? What do you think about kinks, fetishes and sex games?” One’s response to these terms may tell much about the person giving it. Details...

An Alternative View of Kinks and Sexual Fantasies

This attitude tends to vary. In 1891 Kraft Ebbing considered masturbation to be a perversion, and in 1948 Kinsey said that all of us are to some extent bisexual, so there are no “exclusively heterosexual” or “homosexual persons” yet the rate of bisexuality only. In 1973 homosexuality that had been previously considered a disorder was delisted from DSM-2, and in 2013 they decided BDSM shall no longer be called a perversion yet a paraphilia and removed this kink from DSM-5. While the 2016 ALTSEX conference psychologists make public the thesis of “what can we learn from queer community representatives?” Details...

Threesome Experience: Myths and Reality

Threesome is like a life demotivator that features the “expectation to reality” paradigm. Just like any exotic fruit, this type of sex may either catch your fancy or leave a bitter aftertaste in your mouth. You’d better have threesome at the “right” time and with “right” people: in this article we shall divide sex from fairy-tales and uncover the bed of three “dreamers”. Details...

Franklin Veaux’s Great Map of Non-Monogamous Relationships

In 2010 Franklin Veaux, a truly experienced polyamorist and author of the polyamory blog, complemented his blog with a map of non-monogamous relationships, displaying interdependence and intersection between different types of romantic ties. The elaboration of the map was greatly facilitated by his extensive communication with alternative relationships practitioners. Mixing in with the said community, Franklin managed to gather statistics on the most popular types of non-monogamous relationships and set a system of interconnections between different types of bonds. Details...

Dating Swingers and Learning Their Lifestyle

When people who observe swinging lifestyle arrive in a new city they want to find swing clubs and get to private swing parties, being interested in other swing entertainments as well. Those driven by this interest shall definitely need a local “guide” to introduce them to the city alternative lifestyle. When in a new city, one may find it difficult to find such a person unless having a sex-positive kinky-app for dating. Like Fantasy App, for instance. Details...

What is a Kink?
100 years of Kinks Evolution

Sex-positivity of our generation together with possibility of searching for one's sexual fantasies (kinks) and living them out have their historical background. Our ability to wonder “what is a kink?” and “what is my kink?” is owed to sexual revolutions. And sexual revolution of the XX century started earlier than you may think: Wilhelm Reich coined and described the term “sexual revolution” in the 1930-ies. It evolved to the full extent only some 30 years later, having granted to kinksters the freedom of expression and the inner right to experiments. And in the beginning was the culture of pin-up. Details...

Eyes Wide Open: A Guide to Kinky Clubs and Kinky Parties

Having decided on going to a kinky-party the next issue you need to consider shall be: how do you undress for passing face-control? Logics would suggest an image that either represents your own kink or complies with kinks of other people. And this is almost the case J. Different fetish clubs have the rules of their own, and image only may not suffice – you also need to know a proper place to go). Details...