Perversion or Evolution: What is a Sexual Fantasy

Another thing that psychology and sexology refer to unhealthy is the state of a person fixated on one and the same kink only, so that his sexual fantasy is uniform and implies no development. A human individual is an evolving creature and is logical that all our needs develop and alter in the course of life. It is natural that our sexual displays become more complex and sophisticated, and in addition to sexual pleasure they start bringing the esthetic one as well. Details...

Polyamorous Relationship – What You Need to Know Before Starting

Trying on a new type of relationship is just as tricky as fitting a suit you want to buy in an online store – you’ll have to order the delivery. However – just like in the situation with the said store – someone else’s experience in polyamory may also help or at least come in useful: those who have tried before you do may leave their reviews. Probably once there was the first polyamorous family that was started pursuant to desire to live together and in absence of information about other communities consisting of more than two partners. But you can make use of their experience in order to avoid certain troubles and discomfort. Details...

Dan Savage's Definition of Monogamish - And More

However even a most idyllic case may turn a background for new ‘auxiliary’ relations – falling in love with new people, flinging and flirting. And any person capable of self-reflection might sooner or later wonder: “I like other people as well, they ignite my interest and admiration, so who am I? What type of relationship do I have if in addition to my primary partner there are other people I desire?” Details...

Sex in Old Times – First Kinksters’ Predilections

We didn’t have a goal of laying down a complete list of kinks: ancient kinks, as well as kinksters, are actually out of count. We just wanted to show kinky culture to be of considerable age and to encourage the inquisitive reader to do an independent study of other kinksters’ stories. Details...

Let’s talk about sex –
5 reasons to have sexual communication

The freedom to discuss any topic you want is like the feeling of flying – one can understand it only having once tried. Yet it is not only love for unobstructed actions that may motivate to train the skill of talking about sex – there are at least 5 reasons more. Therefore, let us talk about sex. Details...

Threesome Advice - Learning From Movie Scenes

The sources of information telling about “how” the process can be arranged and what are the traps and pitfalls that should be taken into account are numerous and obvious: this can be either the personal experience of your friends (these would rather not be prone to exaggeration) or communication with kinksters on specialized blogs and forums, or this can be traditional watching the movies which stories are suitable for using in your actual reality. Watching a film from this perspective is even more delightful in case you enjoy the actors, the plot and the visual imagery – this is then a chance to get a double pleasure. Details...

Alternative Relationships Glossary: From A To V

Alternative Sexuality: a broad term that encompasses non-traditional gender identity and sexual orientation as well as the issues that deal with crossover of gender and sexual expression, unusual sexual practices (BDSM, other kinks) and non-monogamous forms of relationship. Details...

Into The Big World – Debunking Myths About Polyamorous Relationships

Extreme adherents of monogamy very much enjoy the myth that tells polyamorists to be born this way. Yet the idea of a certain generation ‘p’ that has some specific gene mutation and is from its early years aware of the desire to have a family of more than two does not look anything like real stories shared by polyamorists. One may believe Franklin Veaux who represents himself as the one who’s never been in any monogamous relationship to be a born polyamorist, but he is rather an exception, not the rule. Details...

Travelling To Threesome: Dating And More

Travelling is not just visiting some other country but immersing in a new environment and gaining new knowledge about this not yet explored realm. Living out one’s threesome fantasies gives a chance to learn much new about how the representatives of your gender behave during sex, about the specifics of your orgasm depending on how many people there are in the process, about whether the attitude to a long-term partner changes in case you see him or her in the hands of someone else… Details...

Cultivating Sexual Desire In Monogamous Relationship

Esther Perel, a therapist, compares relationships between partners to learning the world: “because [there are] two sets of needs [that] we are born with. Our need for connection, our need for separateness, or our need for security and adventure, or our need for togetherness and for autonomy… at some point all of us need to go out into the world to discover and to explore. That's the beginning of desire, that exploratory need, curiosity, discovery… Details...