- Why is it important to know our fantasies?
Just like any other art, craft or trade, person’s sexuality can be improved and “upgraded”. You never know how long the way from the moment of desire emergence and until the moment of its fulfillment may be. We believe that the more aware we are about our sexual fantasies, the happier we become and the bigger is the variety we can attain in every aspect of it. “Where Id is, there shall Ego be,” Freud once said. By learning the specifics and details of our fantasies we turn ourselves into more aware and happier individuals.
- What is sexuality?
The notions of sexuality and sexual rights are coming from the definition given by the World Health Organization. Sexuality is a central aspect of being human. It encompasses sex, gender identities and roles, sexual orientation, eroticism, pleasure, intimacy and reproduction. Sexuality is experienced and expressed in thoughts, fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviors, practices, roles and relationships. The above listed may vary in combinations. Sexuality is influenced by the interaction of biological, psychological, social, economic, political, cultural, ethical, legal, historical, religious and spiritual factors.
All persons, free of coercion, discrimination and violence, have the right to:
- the highest attainable standard of sexual health, including access to sexual and reproductive health care services;
- seek, receive and impart information related to sexuality;
- sexuality education;
- respect for bodily integrity;
- choose their partner;
- decide to be sexually active or not;
- consensual sexual relations;
- consensual marriage;
- decide whether or not, and when, to have children; and
- pursue a satisfying, safe and pleasurable sexual life.
- What are the stages of sexuality development?
Our first-hand experience and the practice of our cronies have shown the process of sexuality development and formation of personal sexual freedoms to undergo the following stages:
- Tasting and experimenting
The stage that brings first experience and pleasure. By experimenting and trying different things we start outlining the map of our individual sexuality, continuously complementing it with new fantasies, games, roles and scenarios that we only dream about trying.
- Learning and sensing our own body
The stage of taking a better look into our body: we caress it, touch different parts of it to understand which of the touches and pleasing and which are not. Probably, this stage never ends. We continue finding new nuances in the bodies of ours and our partners. Like, for instance, we may find our left nipple to ask for tender caressing, while the right one to like it rough.
- Understanding our sexual fantasies and practicing sensual experience
Having learned our body, we proceed with the desire to do the same to other bodies. We find ourselves to prefer some specific bodies or to be attracted to separate body parts. Some find sexual attraction in feet; others find these are palms, fingers, hair of eyes that lure them most.
- Making fantasies more refined and integrating them into everyday life
Having made it clear with dos and don’ts, with things that ignite our fire and those that fail to, as well as having set our limits of norm and decency, we proceed to the stage of fulfilling complex fantasies that don’t come down to physical action only. Starting from simple fantasies that don’t require much preparation and investments (both time and money can be counted) and up to very challenging ones–like going to Cap d'Agde (or other specific place of the kind), organizing our independent play party or creating a separate reality that runs in compliance with the rules set by its founders. At this moment sexuality breaks beyond the limits of sex and starts manifesting itself in all life aspects. After all, aware submission to your boss may be the same pleasant as submission to your sexual partner at a play party in Bushwick.
Mastering every stage of sexuality implies an expansion of inner freedoms and reconsideration of inner restraints.
- What is the function of erotic fantasies?
A sexual fantasy is a cue used by our mind to tell about what we can feel, create or experience to develop our personal self. A fantasy is our guide on the way to self-fulfillment and personal growth.
- How can one find their fantasies?
There is a variety of solutions for this problem. We read books, and some scenes make us excited. We watch a movie–just an ordinary movie, nothing of porn in it–and once again it ignites our passion. Or maybe not excitement it is, but just an interest: for playing some new game, trying some new role on. Sometimes it may even come as a part of a routine or a business situation–yet it suddenly turns you on. Or maybe a partner tells you some “juicy” detail, shares a fantasy of their own–and it gives you a thrill and physical vibes. All these situations are a way to find your fantasy in everyday life.
- Are they all fantasies that need fulfillment?
The list of fantasies that are not meant for fulfillment is set forth in the laws of the state that your official citizenship is attributed to. As for the rest of the aspects, we advocate a conscious position that gives no room to extremums. We believe that starting after a fantasy the very next moment it occurs to your head or some lower body part may cause the same adverse effect as its prolonged cherishing without actual living out does. In fact, it rests with the fantasy author to decide. Another thing we must bear in mind is that sexologists consider unhealthy having just one fantasy or one fetish throughout the entire life, as well as any sexual action that inflicts psychological or physical damage.
- What is the purpose of creating Fantasy?
We want the world to be a place for happy people interrelated by harmonious bonds between them. Our contribution to the development of human sexual awareness involves comprehension of sexual fantasies and roles, from the first stage of sexuality development up to the fourth one: making fantasies more sophisticated and integrating them into everyday life (see p. 2. “What are the stages of sexuality development?”). Fantasy is a guide and assistant for everyone who wants to better know the score of the self, one’s sexual fantasies and roles.
Does it mean we must be more sexually omnivorous? Do we want to turn the world into a global love-in? No way! We welcome the ideas of sexual humanism & responsible hedonism, and we strive for establishing a sexual culture with there embedded ideas of personal growth, intensified emotional experience between partners, conscious desires and responsible attitude to the self and partners. The culture that leaves no room for reproaches, blames, humiliation and intolerance to the variety of manifestation of people of all genders and sexualities.
- What is Fantasy?
Fantasy is a sex-positive app for open-minded couples and singles in non-monogamous relationships in that they can contact other people they match by fantasies and lifestyle, as well as share their stories. Fantasy is a community of sex-positive people.
- Who is the app for?
Users of the Fantasy are united by their positive attitude to sex and sexual fantasies, interest in developing their sexuality, creative position of experimenting and a healthy interest in obtaining new knowledge. Fantasy has been created for couples and singles who practice ethical non-monogamy: polyamorous people, couples in open relationships or open marriage, monogamish couples, swingers, open-minded and like-minded people, libertines, ethical sluts, kinksters and unicorns.
- Why is Fantasy designed only for non-monogamous couples and singles?
All people have sex. And we are obviously happy about it. But do we want Fantasy to be used by everyone living on our planet? Definitely not! The culture of sexual relationships is inherent in the societies that are active in learning and creating harmonious bonds between each other. Those practicing ethical non-monogamous relationships, members of the sex-positive society, are people for whom sex constitutes an essential element of their lives, and they know a harmonious way to enjoy their lives to the full and to leave all partners satisfied.
- What is the difference between Fantasy and other apps?
Fantasy is a community of sex-positive people who practice ethical non-monogamy. We are a space where you can chat with users who follow your sexual fantasies, as well as share your fantasies, kinks and real stories right in the app. If you want to find a nearest “body” for your quick sexual discharge, please don’t use Fantasy.
Fantasy also includes a sex-positive blog that explores the issues of sexual fantasies and ethical non-monogamous relationships from the variety of aspects. Our authors are inspired by masterminds of the past days as well as our contemporaries; they keep their eye on scientific attainments, make experiments and explore their sexuality in real life.
- Fantasy is an app for sex?
This issue is up to our users! Fantasy is a community of sex-positive people. Do our users have sex? We hope they do! Do they screw around? Hopefully they don’t! Not every fantasy implies sex, and not every fantasy features intimacy.
- How does the app work?
When stepping in the Fantasy space, you may fill in the profile with your basic data only and immediately proceed to reconnaissance and finding people around you. When satisfied by search results, you may come back to selecting your profile kinks, fetishes and fantasies. Having chosen the ones that turn you on, you may meet users whom you match by fantasies.
Of course we are primarily attracted by a photo; but what we see first under the photo are not only name, age and location, but also sexuality, relationship status, person’s public and secret fantasies. If you want to learn someone better, send a request and in case of mutual interest your secret fantasies shall be disclosed to each other and you can continue with a personal chat.
- Why is signing in to the app available via Facebook only?
We want our users to be real people with real photos. We don’t want to check your pictures in some more complicated manner or to block users. Therefore we have added registration and the function of picture choice with the help of Facebook profile only. An additional benefit from using Facebook for signing in is an option to remain invisible for your network friends. By default, your profile is always hidden from your FB friends.
- Does the app live by some specific etiquette?
Of course! Just like any civilized space, we have our code of conduct!
- Ask for permission.
Don’t do things that may upset another sex-positive user:
- don’t send your intimate pictures without permission;
- don’t use rude words and obscenities (without your match’s consent).
- Use your photo in the profile.
If your sexual fantasy is better represented in a photo of somebody else, make a respective note in your profile.
- We don’t use profile to write about financial status, emails or postal address–either our own or those of other people
Excessive openness verges on an artless mind. Making this kind of data open is appropriate only in case you deal with someone you know and trust.
- Be initiative
No one is obliged to be the first to start the talk, but humble waiting shall never make sense. If your match has come back to you, initiate the communication even in case your fantasy involves playing the one who’s hard to get :).
- In which states and cities does the app operate?
As of September 2017, Fantasy has been launched and runs for the USA users residing in New York. We pursue the goal of being useful for our customer and we don’t seek numbers; it is quality that is essential for us. The app complies with the system of active cities. As soon as the app is joined by sufficient number of users, we switch the respective city into an active mode. An active city is a city in that users living there can see each other. While travelling, users can shift between active cities.
- How can you see secret fantasies of a user?
Are you ready to give away your personal fantasies to everyone you meet? Guess not. Neither are we! Therefore, the app gives an option of both public and secret fantasies. Public fantasies are available for browsing by all users. While secret fantasies shall be disclosed only to users who have mutually confirmed their match. The request confirmation enables a chat between users, and only there secret fantasies come unveiled. The option of public and secret fantasies is operated in the profile settings.
- What are PRO and Community profiles?
We love and support experts and institutions that help all of us delve into the world of fantasies and kinks in real time. Thus Fantasy offers PRO and Community profiles. A PRO profile is a profile of an expert, a guide who helps live through certain experience to everyone interested in having one. A Community profile is an account for organizations, clubs, hotels, organizers of kinky-events. Everyone arranging for experiences and creating kinky spaces may apply for launching a PRO or a Community profile. To apply you need to choose a “PRO/Community account registration” option in the app registration screen.
- What are the app basic rules?
There are two types of the app rules: mandatory (which violation shall cause an account block or delete) and those of etiquette type (that are advisable to follow).
The rules are:
- Fantasy is available only for 18+ users.
- The promotion of the self, your service or service of others is allowed only in PRO and Community profiles.
- Integrity of other users’ data. Don’t pass over information about other Fantasy users that you’ve got in the app.
- Don’t use pictures of genitals, coition process and other pictures containing genitals as your profile picture.
- Respect for refuse. In case you’ve been turned down for further communication or your proposal has been denied, don’t proceed to insist. Fantasy is the community of people who are sure about the things they don’t want.