Online Portrait of Tumblr, Fetlife, Pornhub, Whiplr Sexual Fantasies



Colleagues or night club strangers winking at each other, a passer-by who’s giving a smile… Having noticed a sexual game - be it in a book, a film or a Facebook picture comment - we smile as well. We enjoy observing hidden courtship, obvious and implicit sexual playing. And even on neutral resources like Facebook, Instagram and Tumblr there is a place for sexual fantasies.

This is confirmed by search queries analysis. Their statistics, as well as that of posts dedicated to sexual turn-ons together with the number of kinky resources, tell us people love peeping at other’s sexual fantasies and flirt in public.

Fetlife.com statistics review

Fetlife was launched to facilitate communication and dating based one’s fetishes. It was the first dedicated international resource in this field.

Fetlife’s list of kinks and sexual fantasies resumes 10 years of its activity: 460 sexual fantasies, fetishes and kinks:

Fetlife statistics of sexual fantasies:

  • Group fantasies make ca. 1% of all Fetlife sexual fantasies (MFM, threesome etc.);
  • Fantasies about kinky atmosphere also don’t exceed the 1% threshold (cemetery sex, car sex, sex in the bathroom, in a swingers club etc.);
  • Body fantasies–everything related to body structure and body modifications–make 8,7% (scarification, tickling, tongue);
  • Objects-related fantasies are 15% of the list (lace, chocolate, skirts);
  • Fantasies on domination, submission, sadism and masochism impress with their 16% of the “market share” (emotional masochism, emotional sadism, Japanese bondage);
  • 26% of all fantasies are directly related to sex and different practices of physical intercourse;
  • The variety of role-playing fantasies takes 31% (anonymous meeting, saving a helpless girl, playing a librarian and a reader with overdue book etc.).

The interesting fact we can see from Fetlife is that physical sex here is not the most popular theme. Yet some ideas for sexual fantasies can be still found.

Our structure of sexual fantasies is described in the article List of Kinks And Their Definitions: Real Stories Analysis.  

King of search queries–Pornhub

The specific feature of Pornhub lies in its content’ being only about physical sex and what sex results in. Porn industry is primed for money shot rather than long-lasting exciting game.

Time, age and gender

The most popular time for porn watching is 10.00 p.m. to 0.00. The three hours before sleep is the time for sexual fantasies.

Most of Pornhub visitors are men; women make only 24% of the worldwide traffic.

The average age of the resource visitors is 35 years. 30% of all content users are 18 to 24 years old (the millennials take the lead here as well).

Popular fantasies

If we opt to trust psychoanalysis, we’d admit that we are most of all attracted by things that are prohibited. While Porhbub statistics tell the most desired pieces to be sex that does not feature men. Sex between two women is the world’s most tabooed video. This query is even more popular than teen sex or incest with mom.

Curiously, the most ardent patriots among Pornhub visitors come from India and Germany. In these countries their own nationality tops the search queries.

And this fact does go on the same page with the theory of eroticized taboos. Probably residents of India and Germany take a hold on themselves even on Pornhub.

Pornhub statistics in the USA

Americans are the world number one in visiting Pornhub. They do it twice as often as their runners up–the UK people–do. Absolute victory.

In terms of session duration, the USA comes second yielding the palm to the Philippines. The average time that Americans spend with Pornhub makes 9 minutes 51 seconds.

America’s top 10 best exciting fantasies show mothers to be the most popular search that makes three out of ten:

  • Top position–step mom, six-MILF, last one–simply mom;
  • 2nd place–cartoon;
  • the 3th place is once again taken by lesbian females;
  • 4th  place-teenagers
  • black come as nr.5
  • position 7 is taken by step sisters
  • squirt is number 8
  • and only 9th position features white male as a part of “threesome” fantasy.

Kinky life of Whiplr, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook


When registering in Whiplr you get a kind of sexual fantasies classification by 9 thematic groups: just curious, fashion, objects, behavior, materials, accessories, sounds, shopping, odors.

The app does not run search queries statistics but gives information as to membership in WhipIr internal thematic groups:

Role playing 654
Whips, flagellation 683
Playing with strap-on 18
Foot fetish 745
Polyamory and kinks 779
Exhibitionism 827
Female subs 1042
Humiliation 1087
Kinky photo 1209
Bondage 1214
Cuckold 1235
Online-games 1357
BDSM 1752
Femdom 2066

Popularity of BDSM type of fantasies seems quite logic for the app which name is based on “whip”.

Sexual fantasies of Tumblr

Tumblr does not share its statistics. So our data analysis was based on fantasies hashtags.

Searching by #sexualfantasy we get much of porn-content, most of it being themed groups. There one can find GIFs for a hot virtual game with a partner.

#Fetishes is one of TumbIr’s most popular hashtags. A lot of communication and user’s feedbacks, stories about their kinks and sexual fantasies. Here one can find lots of humor, sexual fantasies ideas and motivating fetish-related quotes like “DO. NOT. BE. ASHAMED. OF. YOUR.FETISH”.

The #kinks hashtag incorporates the two previous ones: explicit porn, themed GIFS and motivating sexual fantasy quotes: “sharing kink is caring”.  Another pleasing feature is that members use Tumblr to share their sexual fantasies styled as “Bedhead notes”:

“Good things:
- Being spanked,
- Kisses on the neck,
- Dirty talk,
- Groping,
- “I love you”,
- Cuddling,
- Naked cuddles,
- Massages,
- Neck biting,
- Hair pulling,
- Butterfly kisses,
- Kisses on the forehead,
- Undressing each other,
- Trust,
- Love”

A list like this is a valued example of honest description of one’s sexual and emotional needs.

Kinky life of Instagram

Instagram has borrowed strict censorship rules from its owner–Facebook. But regardless chastity restrictions Instagram users create profiles and feeds that replete with sexuality.

Instagram top leader is BDSM–over 1 million posts in general. While #kinks hashtag mostly leads to pictures of curls rather than sex kinks.

Sexy kinky face of Facebook

Yes, even this Victorian-like prudent monster of social media content hosts news coming from the world of kinks and admits existence of kinksters groups.

The largest kinky group on Facebook is @kinksterworld (1000 subscribers). The group basic content features motivating sexual fantasy quotes and notes of practical kind a la “Bondage for newbies”.

Local BDSM-groups with restricted access have more participants. Even Mumbai has a community of this kind–the @bdsmacademy.India.

#Fetish hashtag pleases the eye with a list of themed pages and groups like @fetishparties, @fetishfilm, @German Fetish Ball etc.  

Those who have chosen sex-positive ways have managed to adapt Facebook rules and manners to their life style and proceed to use its user-friendly options.

Sexual fantasies and Fantasy App

The variety of content dealing with sexual fantasies confirms the value they bring to our life. We love fantasizing and learning fantasies of our friends and lovers, listen them in, peep at them. That’s why we’ve created a space for sex-positive people where one can find partners by one’s sexual fantasies – the Fantasy App. The realm of Fantasy may give ideas of sexual fantasies for those who don’t know where to search for.

The diversity of sexual fantasies–is it a norm, a natural phenomenon? Or do they classify it as superfluities and extravagance? We answer these questions in article An Alternative View On Kinks And Sexual Fantasies.


Fantasy — the dating by fantasy app