List Of Kinks Fantasies And Their Definitions – An Analysis of Real Stories
Based on kinky stories that we found on the web and received from our readers, we’ve drawn up a list of kinks and divided them into conceptual categories. Spoiler: this article contains a lot of true, kinky stories. Get ready.
Definition of kink – it is not all that simple
Across various sources — from official academic dictionaries to informal jokes, and from vernacular vocabularies to sex-evangelism blogs— definitions of “kink” differ wildly. The lengthy, conflicting list of definitions is like a veil hiding the true meaning and perplexing those who want to make sense of the subject
“non-traditional sexual preferences”,
“participation in or taste for uncommon sexual conduct”,
“any kind of non-traditional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies”,
“something opposite to vanilla sex”,
“openness to sexual experiments”,
“sexual practices that most people consider to be wild, unusual or extreme”
Using that list, one can single out a single basic thing that all definitions have in common: at the very least, a kink is something that ignites sexual desire.
We’ve pored over stories, analyzed various kinds of sexual experiences and organized our findings into five conceptual categories.
If we’ve left your favorite kink off our list, come send us your story;)
As we travel through the wide world of kinks and fantasies, we’ll make our first stop at the nonliving objects that sexually excite us. You may know these particular kinks under a different name: fetishes. Sexual fetishism is arousal caused by nonliving objects.
Fetishes can include just about anything, from garters, leather jackets, vibrators, a cherry on the pie, sex toys, cakes, sand and water, to the taste and smell of different items. Fetishes and object kinks are one and the same.
Want to better understand object kinks? Check out the stories below.
Kink: stockings with garters. “My boyfriend has a fetish—he wants me when I wear elegant stockings with garters. I already have a good deal of these garters, a perfect collection. There’s so much piquancy in this.”
Kink: glasses. “I think I love having sex with intelligent girls. I believe a girl to be intelligent when she wears glasses. That’s why I always choose poses that let me see her face and glasses.”
Kink: chef’s whites. “I’ve been recently dreaming about a chef in a five-star hotel. I fancy seeing him in his uniform with this funny hat on his head—I don’t think I’d manage to control myself! I would take him to the back room and… It is this toque blanche that makes me horny; dunno why, but this thing is my surefire desire exciter.”
These are also objects, except these are “living” — body kinks refer to body parts or specific body types that light your sexual fire. For instance, some people might enjoy men and women with long, well-groomed hair. Others may get aroused by a slight figure, a curvaceous body, the absence of hair or even a specific presence, body odor and taste…
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Kink: big booties. “Girls with big and plummy asses make me horny, and I don’t care whether they’re natural or it took a surgeon to make them look like this: it’s just mind-blowing when I see a girl and imagine bending her down, and then there’s the way her booty starts shaking…”
Kink: white skin. “Someone may be enraptured by legs, arms and boobs, but as for me—I adore white skin. When I happen to see a girl like this, I cannot take my eyes off her, and when it is a man I get aroused at once.”
Group kinks – the delight that takes more than two
Does the idea of intercourse among more than two people excite you? This can be a threesome, group sex or public sex. Those watching are also participants in the process: they are the audience witnessing the selfless performance of the actors. If this interests you, consider it a marker of the group kink.
Let’s see what others have to say.
Kink: public sex. “My husband and I have been together for a long time. Having visited a club for a kinky-party, we were surprised to find out that we enjoy having sex in public. Even when the desire was not that strong, the glances and gazes of other people ignited our sexual drive and made us dissolve into each other.”
Kink: group sex. “Whenever I happen to feel another body touch me at the disco, I become horny even without seeing the gender or the face of the person next to me; I understand that what makes me aroused is the idea that everyone present has come for pleasure, and if I imagine them all without clothes, I shall desire every man and woman on the dancefloor.”
Kink: threesome. “Our friends have always considered us to be an exemplary couple who love and respect each other. But very few of them know that we like threesomes and very often look for a third partner by using sex apps and searching clubs. When we add a third person, sex becomes even more vibrant, and we adore this joint seduction.”
Kink: corruption and training. “Every day I recall meeting my girl. When I was introduced to her, she had such a shy and innocent look, sitting there in her blue dress. And now we are in a serious relationship and she is second to none in sex—an embarrassed girl has turned into a daring and passionate woman. I had no idea she could be like this. When we go out together and she behaves in her sweet and tender way, I remember what she is in bed—and this is exciting as hell.”
Domination and submission kinks – the sweet couple
Someone plays the gray wolf while their partner is Little Red Riding Hood; someone acts as a servant while another becomes a master; someone plays a teacher while others prefer to be naughty female students. Some people always choose the leading role, give orders, manage the situation and take without asking.
Along these lines, there is always someone on top and someone on the bottom, one who dominates and a submissive who obeys without question, one who loves to cause pain and another ready to bear it for the benefit of the master. But never forget that the basic principles of BDSM lie in safety, voluntariness and right reason. It is not for nothing that the top is trusted—they hold the bottom’s wellbeing in their hands.
Let’s take a closer look.
Kink: domination over a Cinderella-man. “When my man helps his folks around the house, he always writes me an SMS saying: “Busy at the moment. Playing a Cinderella part.” After these words, I fancy him naked and wearing nothing but a housemaid’s apron, and I’m aching to fuck him… I can’t bear suppressing this desire. ;)”
Kink: restricted mobility. “I love handcuffs so much… When I was having sex with my new partner for the first time, he chained me; in the heat of passion, I failed to notice this, yet when I heard the snap I almost climaxed that very second. And the fact that I did not know this man well enough even spiced things up. That was a hell of an orgasm!”
Kink: submission to someone who is much stronger. “I get very horny—I can cum at once—the very second I touch my lover’s biceps or his brawny shoulders. With the whole of my body I feel his strength and power over me, and the idea of my helplessness simply drives me crazy; this is a kind of incredible emotional experience.”
Kink: partner’s roughness. “I had a good deal of partners who loved gentle sex. I met a girl recently. I started by being mild and gentle, as I’d learned from previous relationships. I petted and caressed her, but then I saw she was becoming even more aroused when I proceed to do things in a rough and forceful manner.”
Roleplaying / scene acting kinks
A no-nonsense boss by day—and an obedient secretary by night. A caring mother when visiting friends—and a slut in the bedroom. A run-of-the-mill manager in the real world—and a strict doctor in the realm of his fantasies. Trying someone else’s role on, stepping into their shoes for half an hour or half a day, becoming the opposite of yourself, playing pretend until you roll with ecstasy—this is a roleplaying kink.
Even if your partners stay the same, the situations that traditionally make you horny may change. If you view your partner as part of the setting or a piece of décor and you find more excitement in acting out a scene, roleplaying might be your kink.
You can draw inspiration for these kinks from movie storylines or even snapshots from everyday life, like talking to a railway guard, buying a car, asking for a dance, changing clothes, training an inexperienced student or managing a company.
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Kink: seduction by a lecturer. “I’m crazy about a lecturer. I cannot stop fancying him taking me right during the lecture, on the table, so that all of the students see it.”
Kink: extended seduction. “I adore the state of sexual arousal; I want to continue playing and flirting with my partner, getting more and more excited with every minute. To understand that I am almost dead excited and exhausted by desire, but to delay until the very last moment so that a single touch of his body against mine sends electricity running through my veins… As for him, I like him to empathize with all of my sensations and have fun, but during the whole process he feels exactly the same way that I do. It’s kind of sweet torturing each other.”
Kink: seducing a busy partner. “It turns me on to see my boyfriend concentrated on something. He looks so damn sexy when working or watching a film that I am ready to pounce on him right away.”
Kink: admiration. “I always want a man who admires me. Whenever I feel admiration, then his weight, age, sex and the size of his manhood (I mean both the body and financial standing) cease to matter to my body.”
The kink of experimenting with bans
Not allowed, not appropriate, wrong, unworthy. There are endless bans and prohibitions that people want to violate. This kink is a grim cocktail of shame, adrenaline, excitement and doubts: public places, social inequality, unplanned/spontaneous/inappropriate sex, sex with a stranger, sex with someone else’s partner… I’m sure you can add many entries to this list!
Let’s hear from some people who’ve already crossed the line.
Kink: provocative clothing. “My colleague usually dresses in a rather straight-laced and feminine way that does not trigger any particular emotions. But sometimes she may put on something from a grunge style: ripped jeans, stretched T-shirts and no makeup. Somehow, it turns me on so much I want to grab her and press her against the wall and shag her somewhere in the WC. By the way, I’m a girl.”
Kink: ban violation. “I never allow my boyfriend to watch when I give him a blowjob. In fact, I put a sleep mask on him so that he can’t see. During the process, I notice him peeping and get a thrill out of it.”
Kink: a man in women’s clothing. “I also have a very unusual fetish. I’m crazy about men wearing women’s clothes. I can’t help that I enjoy it.”
A long seduction kink – the kink of god or goddess
You stand in awe of someone, and that just makes you want them more. The desire for seduction is mixed with both admiration and fear, the kind of fear that you have right before doing something new and terrifying. You might feel no fear when preparing to taste a new dish in a restaurant, yet when you throb with anxiety before your first visit to a swing-club, it means that you have an almost godlike reverence for whatever is about to happen next.
You may experience the same with people, so that every interaction with a certain person changes you. You understand that you will never be the same after having sex with him or her. If you have a kink like this, then this feeling will always stick with you, even as you proceed to seduce your partner with your actions, your body, your caressing. That person is always your god or goddess.
In essence, it’s like having the desire to find someone better than you: a “deity” you want to surrender yourself to, a man or a woman who could take you out of yourself. Someone who could make you “believe that there was something more important on earth than myself…” (Henry Miller).
Fantasy – sex-positive app
Now that we’ve analyzed the meaning of kink and examined stories from kinksters, let’s draw up our own general definition: “kink is something that causes your sexual excitement,” or more specifically, “a role, an object, a body part, a situation or a game that ignites your sexual desire.”
Now that you have learned the list of kinks, you may continue your tour into the world of kinks by using the Fantasy App, meeting other kinksters, reading other people’s kinky stories and sharing your own kinks. As for this article, it is just an overall map that outlines the world of kinks and gives a basic description—the very first step to exploring kinks. For more, read in article "Sex in Old Times – First Kinksters’ Predilections".
We are all kinksters – but not all of us know this (Fantasy)