WHAT IS A SWINGER PARTY?
You’re probably wondering what a swinger party is like.
We don’t blame you. To the uninitiated, it can be hard to imagine.
Swinging is a lifestyle. One that many people would like to get into, but have no real idea what to expect from it.
WHAT IS A SWINGER PARTY?
What NOT to Expect at a Swinger Party
Firstly, no, swinger parties don’t all descend into one big orgy. Nor do people walk around everywhere butt naked. These are myths, similar to the several myths that surround threesomes.
When you arrive, you’ll usually find everyone fully clothed. There is generally a designated play area at swinger parties, but otherwise it’ll be like any other party.
There’ll be drinks, snacks and people ready mingle andchat. You and your partner can dance and do the usual party stuff. The only real difference is that you’ll both be deciding whether you want to get intimate with the other couples you’re talking to.
Also, if you’re a single guy, you need to know that most parties don’t let single men in. Single women, however, are usually more than welcome. Sorry, guys.
Swinger parties can also happen anywhere – so don’t expect to have to sneak into some dingy back alley. They can be held in private residences, luxury hotels, a dedicated club, even cruise ships. Wherever they happen, they’re always invite-only, so don’t expect to just turn up.
Dating a swinger can also be really different from any other relationship that you’ve had.
Most importantly though, remember that swinger parties are safe spaces for like-minded people to share their common desires with each other.
Finding a Swinger Party
Your best bet is the internet. Simply bring up a search engine and type in what you want to find out, and you’ll be led to a number of dating sites and forums.
Shifting through them can be hard, though, which is why Fantasy is an excellent way for you to get into the swinger lifestyle if you’re a beginner.
Fantasy is an app that provides a safe, sex-positive space where everyone can share their deepest desires and wildest fantasies.
It will allow you to connect with like-minded people and learn from the more experienced in the community. It also helps ease those first-timer nerves, as you can chat on the app to get to know each other before meeting up and attending your first party.
Fantasy offers a great place for you if you want to get into the swinger lifestyle, but don’t know where to start.
The People You Meet at a Swinger Party
You’re going to meet all kinds of people at a swinger party.
Mostly, they’ll be the same as people at any other party. A person is a person, after all. So your first impression may be that you walked into the wrong building.
But as we said, unless there’s a themed event (which does happen), you’ll see people dressed normally, having a good time. There’ll just be an added atmosphere of excitement and sexual tension in the room.
There will be couples of all ages, races, and creeds, all just there to have a good time in a safe space.
Some people are not there for sex. They’ll be there to network, make new friends, and perhaps give you an opportunity to be invited to other parties.
This brings us to a point that we need to mention – it is totally okay to go to a swinger party and decide not to have sex if you don’t feel like it. No means no, and you won’t be judged for sounding off if you’re uncomfortable.
Among the guests, you’ll probably find people who are a lot more experienced with the swinger lifestyle. These are the people who have been to a few of these parties and know what they want, who they want it with, and how they want it.
If you’re friendly to everyone, you might get the chance to get to know these couples. This would be a good idea, as they could help you with the basics.
You will also find another category of people who are not there to have sex, but to watch couples in action. These are the voyeurs. They come to parties just to watch and must abide by certain rules, one of them being that they need to keep quiet while they watch.
You’ll also probably hear couples using the swinger “lingo”, but we’ll touch more on that a bit later.
Generally, a swinger party is the same as any other. You’ll find a lot of different people coming together to have fun. This time the “fun” in question is usually the naughty kind.
But there are certain rules that you need to keep in mind.
The Rules of Swinger Parties
No Means NO
This is vital. You and everyone else at a swinger party has the right to refuse any advances or offers.
No one needs to explain why. All you need to do is politely decline.
These parties are for people to have fun, and this means only doing things you’re comfortable with.
Stick With Your Partner
You need to stick close to your partner at a swinger party. You arrive together, and you leave together.
This not only makes it safer and more comfortable for you both, but it also means that you are respecting the rules of the party.
Swinging is a team effort. There’s no going about it solo.
Be On Time
Nothing is more awkward than being the only one to turn up late. Similarly, nothing is more annoying for a host than latecomers.
So be punctual to any party you’re lucky enough to be invited to. And if you can’t get there on time, call ahead to let the host know.
Courtesy is Important
Be friendly, kind, thoughtful, and understanding. Everyone at these parties is a person too, and you need to remember that.
Treat everyone with respect and kindness, and you’ll have a great time. If you don’t, you probably won’t get invited to another party.
Respond to Invites
Always respond to any invites that you get. Hosts need to know exactly how many people are attending their parties, and you don’t want to be the one to put them out.
So, even if you don’t want to go or can’t attend, thank them for the invite and politely decline.
Bring a Gift
Just like any other party, it’s rude to turn up empty-handed. A bottle of wine is usually a good idea, but if you really have no idea what to get, try contacting the host and asking. They’ll appreciate the gesture.
Dress To Impress
You’re going to want to impress people at a swinger party, so it’s best that you dress right. But keep in mind that it also has to be easy to take off and comfortable.
Women can try a form-fitting cocktail dress, while men can go for chinos or jeans and a shirt. Also, remember to bring a robe along, just in case.
Wear minimum jewellery, and only carry the cash you need.
Be Clean
This rule is pretty self-explanatory. Brush your teeth, shower, groom well, and wear a nice scent. You want to impress the people at this party and look attractive.
Carry some mints with you as well. It will help you freshen your breath if you need to.
And that’s it. A swinger party is basically like any other party, just with more naughty stuff.
Once you are invited, just go and have fun.
There’s no pressure at all.
Check out Fantasy to find a like-minded partner.
You’d be surprised at how much you can learn from other swingers in a safe, judgement-free space.
And if you have any other rules or tips that we didn’t mention, be sure to let us know in the comments below!