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Travelling To Threesome: Dating And More

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Travelling is not just visiting some other country but immersing in a new environment and gaining new knowledge about this not yet explored realm. Living out one’s threesome fantasies gives a chance to learn much new about how the representatives of your gender behave during sex, about the specifics of your orgasm depending on how many people there are in the process, about whether the attitude to a long-term partner changes in case you see him or her in the hands of someone else…

Let us begin with studying the theory, the side effects that this trip may be accompanied by in actual practice, and think of why threesome is still worth trying, what are the sense and use, the specific features, the necessity for and the value of it. And try to find our own answer ☺

Threesome dating as a learning space

Having a three-way gives you a chance to spy the specifics of sexual behavior of another one of your gender and learn something new.

Logical and enjoyable, the ideas of development and self-improvement are not traditionally accustomed to in the sphere of sex. Probably it is only in case of experts that thinking about sex as something that can be learned is considered appropriate. People never give a second thought about taking a chance to snoop at expert chef cooking and adopt his secrets that may help one cook better. However peeping at the way sex is had by a representative of your gender in real life is not so obvious an idea. And as long as you believe that “sex is something you learn by intuition” and “I have nothing to be taught by a better experienced partner” developing your sexual skills shall remain problematic. In the meanwhile this is the opportunity that threesome dating gives.

Tripple source of new sensual experience

This might be the least point that requires illustrations:). Yet...

Just like you cannot imagine the taste of a dish you have never degusted, it is in the same way impossible to guess new sensations that threesome shall give you.

By asking yourself a question “what does it feel like when:

- there are 4 hands caressing me;

- someone is watching me having sex;

- I am observing a pair of sexually aroused bodies at my arms’ length;

- I am caressing a body together with someone else, helping each other make the third partner come;

- there are two bodies pressing to mine”,

you can try to give a frank answer as to whether anything of the afore-listed makes you excited. And whether you are ready to try fulfilling this sexual fantasy according to your own recipe.

Three times as much as orgasm

Though never seen first-hand, I admit there are people who need two to climax. Double penetration, simultaneous caress of zones located far from each other - mysterious are the ways that shall lead you to a new type of orgasm. Maybe your happy ending just needs someone third to be watching you, or videotaping, or waving a large fan, dressed like a punka boy or a slave who complies with your orders...

Taking sexual fantasy through to reality

Nursing a fantasy that you want to live out is like cherishing an idea: the process is pleasant and inspiring, yet waiting until you turn 70 before venturing to put it into action is not a good idea. Living an exciting sexual fantasy out may make room for new fantasies, may help you learn some new aspect of your self and deliver from uncertainty. Setting your mind at rest by the idea that threesome may happen not to come to your taste is comfortable, but if eager to try, then you are probably ready to have a go at it.

The feeling you get when you live the dream out, when you bring the idea to fruition endows you with self-confidence and the sense of your own worldview’ relevance, it makes your life more vibrant and fulfilling, and that is why I enjoy my fantasies and their implementation.  

Threesome dating as a thrilling experience

Offering someone a three-way is an extremely exciting venture. And if you are the kind aroused by risk, then taking the risk of offering ménage a trois shall be a safe one ;). Searching for dangerous to health situations is not mandatory when you have an opportunity of risk-off exploring your bounds and going beyond them.

Threesome dating is an experience that gives a chance to meet your fears and doubts face to face and find out whether they are as black as they are painted. Whether it is really that awful – to see someone else kissing your beloved one, or if it excites and makes you want him/her even more. Whether appearing to be not the toughest of the two of the same sex is terrifying – or whether you allow yourself to discard competition.

A third one to bring something new into the couple

A threesome experience may help you see the partner from another perspective, learn something new about him or her. You may find out which of your partner’s aspects excites other people. You shall get to know what it is in others that your partner gets aroused from. This kind of experience may complement regular relationships with some new and vibrant moments, take you out from your comfort zone and offer you new topics for discussion, a new field for experimenting and developing your relations.

Threesome as a bisexuality test

A confidence that has not been evidenced by experience leaves room for doubts. If you are totally sure about your heterosexuality it is logic that you try it out.

Let yourself know what it feels like – being touched by someone of your sex. To see the way your body reacts to these touches in different situations – during foreplay and at the moment of orgasm; to trace down the moment when the gender of the one who brings you pleasure ceases to matter – the test of your true self. You shall either understand that you can enjoy others of your gender or learn about your inability to take delight from same-sex people no matter how amazing they are, so that no-one shall any longer be able to plant doubt in your mind in this respect.

What may fail to happen?

However if we set a goal of mandatory attaining something of the aforementioned – even if one point only - we risk getting into the hell of displeasure. When it comes to sex, goal-setting calls into question or completely devalues the delight from the process proper. Any experiment can please the author only in case he enjoys the process of doing it rather than expects the experiment to validate the result. In latter case any outcome shall be just a side effect of ménage a trois.  

You may fail to get the best orgasm in your life; you shall hardly become better in sex on the first try; jealousy and competition may impede your relaxation. What can be done in this case? Just like in any other experiment – one may keep on trying and gaining experience to make it sufficient for qualitative improvements. Not all things are perfect on the first try, but you cannot change yourself without trying.

Who are doomed to threesome?

If your sexual fantasy, your arousing game or the kink that you have are somehow associated with several people – be it a scenario of a film director, voyeurism or spying – the threesome experience for sure has something to do with this. You cannot do without tree-way in case you want to master living without jealousy and establish open, ethical non-monogamous or polyamorous relations. You shall hardly manage to visit a swing-club or a sex-party (more about kinky-party in our article "Eyes Wide Open: A Guide to Kinky Clubs and Kinky Parties") without getting involved into threesome datings: these are the places where all participants are either watching or being watched. And in swing-club, even if you don’t touch anyone, it is more than a threesome that your participate in ☺.

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