Monogamish TED Talks


“Monogamy established itself thousands of years ago, when society was ruled by scarcity and resources and potential mates were in limited supply,” Chris Messina, the inventor of the hashtag argued in his TED Talk. “ We’re now living in a period of great (though unequally distributed) abundance where our basic needs are sufficiently met, and reproduction is a choice. As a result, the reasons to be with a single mate for life are less urgent.”

The term “monogamish” continues to spark debate. Some consider it a fancy word for infidelity, while others argue it is the future of relationships because monogamy is simply too much to ask of a person. Fantasy App supports those interested in or currently in monogamish relationships...download the app now if you haven’t already! The team behind the app are also big fans of the monogamish TED talks that keep happening.

TED Talks On Monogamish Ideas & Ideals

In addition to Messina, psychotherapist Esther Perel and sexologist, author, and PlayboyTV host Jessica O’Reilly are among those who have given monogamish TED talks and subsequently provided their unique insights on the concept. The talks have been met with both praise and backlash, with some viewers dismissing the idea completely and claiming TED talks have lost all credibility.

Messina speaks of being in a monogamish relationship, or “consensual non-monogamy”, saying: We’re committed to each other, but have a porous boundary around our relationship, meaning we’ve agreed that it’s OK for either of us to express romantic feelings toward other people or to be physically intimate with other people, so long as we’re honest and transparent about our intentions with one another. These things don’t diminish the integrity of our relationship. Rather, they deepen our understanding of each other’s wants and desires, and give us the space to grow independently, without growing apart.

The Future of Relationships?

O’Reilly and other “sexperts” who applaud the idea of monogamish relationships argue that they are, in fact, the much healthier alternative to “regular” committed relationships, with O’Reilly specifically noting that monogamy has the power to “tear families apart.” Sex unfortunately vacates many relationships due to factors such as work and kids, leaving people feeling frustrated, bored, and just plain horny. TED Talks about monogamish relationships emphasize the many positives that can come out of such partnerships in addition to sexual release and satisfaction, including a better appreciation of your partner and a reduced chance of engaging in the lying and deceitful behavior usually synonymous with affairs. These experts hope monogamish relationships are the future of love and romance because they sidestep the stagnation that can occur when you have been with the same person for decades. Perel focuses on this idea a lot, asking, “Can we want what we already have?”

Fostering Better Communication

The monogamish TED Talks have certainly kept the door open in regards to what a committed relationship means, and if nothing else help people in monogamous and monogamish relationships learn to communicate better. Communicating expectations, for example, is imperative in maintaining a happy, healthy relationship.

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