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The Good and Bad of Adult Content: Sex-Positive Porn vs Misleading Porn

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The article intends to define the place of sex-positivity in porn content, and it shall start with the definition of porn. Sure we know lawyers in almost every country worldwide to have racked their brains trying to solve a stiff task of defining “what porn is, and what it is not”. But we don’t have to forbid anything, thus our definition comes in a short and easy form: porn is images and objects designed to provoke excitement and sexual fantasies in the one observing them.

Yet there is one issue in the definition that needs particular consideration: the objects of pornographic art taken from ancient sources trigger a reaction that differs from that incited by the porn videos of today. Obviously, the art of pornography emerged neither from the first porn director’s viewfinder nor from the camera lens of the first porn photographer. For thousands of years artists and authors have been creating exciting paintings, sculptures, pieces of prose and poetry. And no danger was considered to be thus posed to the society–at least, only some sex-negative communities used to take it for evil.

But the XXI century has turned the centuries-old art of igniting sexual fantasies with the help of porn images into business issue that abides by the rules of the financial world. In the realm of mass consumer goods the accuracy of details, authenticity, the refinement of the scene arrangement and the expertise of the author become needless. You must create the needs and meet them well: just turn the product into an essential, constant and natural object of expenditure, make it equal to maintenance bills and insurance premium.

Such kind of mass production induces antagonism: BBC has even made a video telling every new generation has seen porn earlier than the one before and explaining the way it influences children. For our part, we account not only the damage that porn may do to people of full age and that has not been listed in thepopular articles on porn devastating effect–like 10 toxic side effects of pornography use. We also consider the benefits that porn brings to the mankind.

Three unobvious side effects of porn

I Misrepresentation and inaccuracy in sexual education

When one googles for any issue related to sex, they are porn videos that come on the very first pages of search results. And this makes pornography the most generally available type of information about sex.

In the meantime, the aim pursued by porn resources has nothing to do with education. It is money that matters here. And the purpose lies in inducing the quickest possible excitement in site visitors rather than providing them with correct information.

Usually neither directors nor actors of mature audience videos care about truthfulness; most probably, it happens on the contrary. We are always excited by forbidden notions and something hard-to-get; and thus they show us things we shall never come across in real life. So in no way porn can help find information about sex in open marriage or polygamy. While group sex videos make the most far-fetched part of the related content.

A porn site seems to have answers to almost every question: how to have a threesome, how to seduce a girl into threesome, and so on. But the principal question here shall be: how applicatory should this knowledge be in your real life?

II Sexuality by a template

We all differ by fantasies, the dreams that emerge in compliance with psychical specifics and the life experience of every particular person. However, if you analyze a series of porn videos, you shall see them representing men and women in several standards only. Namely, they are always:

  • ready for immediate coitus
  • happy about cum on face;
  • dress in black to practice BDSM;

In addition to this

  • gays are always shot with naked core and showing their pumps, and
  • sisters always dream about brothers.

This is the type of behavior we see in porn firms much more often than anything of the opposite kind.

These templates, like any misleading commercial, generate expectations that beget the next coming phase.

III Enchantment and disappointment

If a product does not meet the promise given in the ad, we can try to return it and get a refund. If people don’t fit the template sexuality, we can scratch them off our life list. But shall we manage to find those who genuinely fit in the description drawn in the section above?

Each of us comes with individual fantasy and personal fetishes. Pornography, just like commercials, invoke observers’ expectations that life does not come up to. Real men and women find it hard to comply with fanciful porn-actors. Especially in case the sexual role you are expected to act is a drastic difference from your authentic fantasy. As a result, it seems the world is deceiving us: most of our partners have nothing in common with those expectations we have after watching porn.

But despite all aforementioned, pornography offers undoubted benefits that one can enjoy.

The benefits of porn: sex-positive porn:

I Does abstinence from masturbation make you good?

Out of a clear blue sky, isn’t it? But here it is: the direct good of pornography lies in its making us masturbate.

Let us imagine people living stuffed to the gills with excitement. Wouldn’t it increase the level of social discontent and aggression? Wouldn’t it make the rape rate higher?

We can observe the third world countries that have already left the jungles of permissiveness and promiscuity but still lack proper education. The states in that marriage (and respectively, first sex) implies that you must first earn for a cow or a camel. And people there are overfilled with hormones of sexual desire.

Pornography can be compared to the first step on the way to sex-positive society in the states where repressive attitude to sex currently prevails. A humble and hesitant it may be, but all first steps are like this.

II Porn against ignorance

Remember 1984, a novel that describes the society cut off information. Not just some reliable information or approximate data, but information in general.

In the world of today one can also find states that protect their citizens from information, including any knowledge about sex. There are countries that forbid sexual education at schools. People are suggested staying with one sexual partner for the rest of their lives and having sex in the missionary position only, while the idea of fulfilling fantasies is beyond discussion.

Coming from the Internet, porn content is a fast and efficient way to show a resident of any country that sex is what can happen between people of different races, of one and the same gender, and in the variety of poses. And you don’t need to have a good command of English to understand this. Yes, this is not what they call proper education, but it is obviously better than the absence of it.

III Porn as a ground for sexual fantasies

Together with the rest of the mankind we are starting our journey along the road of learning our sexuality. Sure not many of our grandparents would have voted for oral sex as a decent activity. And though our virtue no longer suffers from oral sex but enjoys it, we are still far from coming to know all our sexual fantasies. When couples or singles hit the enjoyable road of sexual experiments, it is not from the start that creative ideas occur to them. Sometimes we want to know the way things are done by other people. Want to see what else we can do.

Sharing with your partner a sexual fantasy about a porn film storyline or trying to experiment the same in your bedroom is sure to add some positive vibes. An experiment like this, if you don’t bank on its complete matching with your fantasy, can be an exciting entertainment.

But for all that, is porn good or bad?

Any object when operated by a prentice hand can do harm. But absence of development shall leave humanity in the caves. We believe popularity of porn content to be a common stage of human development. And if porn has helped people learn about the existence of sex proper this shall obviously come as a benefit of it. Another good issue one can take from porn videos is finding out the sexual fantasy of one’s own.

Porn video is the first source of information that forms one’s vision of sex. Artificial porn gives rise to misleading information. Yet both porn-industry functionaries as well as advocates of sexual education are becoming interested in creating sex-positive porn. For instance, this is what Cindy Gallop and her Make Love Not Porn project actually do. And we also vote for porn that is more art and less artificialness.

As to the fantasies that top the list of the internet search queries, read about them in the article Online Portrait of Fetlife, Pornhub, Tumblr, Whiplr Sexual Fantasies

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