Threesome Advice - Learning From Movie Scenes
You are never too lazy to search the internet for a recipe of a new dish that you are making or even watch a video of the cooking process, aren’t you? In case you don’t like such kind of female “gastronomy” metaphor, I can take one for you from a different field – say, you do read the manual before assembling an aircraft model or watch the video tutorial of using Photoshop, don’t you? The more interesting and complicated the process, the less intuitively clear shall be its structure;). Now, ménage a trois is a process that should respect the interests of three parties and comply with fantasies of all participants. Is there anything more interesting and challenging?
So in case you fantasize about organizing an amusing threesome experience for yourself or for the two of you, where can the recipes or guidelines be found?
The sources of information telling about “how” the process can be arranged and what are the traps and pitfalls that should be taken into account are numerous and obvious: this can be either the personal experience of your friends (these would rather not be prone to exaggeration) or communication with kinksters on specialized blogs and forums, or this can be traditional watching the movies which stories are suitable for using in your actual reality. Watching a film from this perspective is even more delightful in case you enjoy the actors, the plot and the visual imagery – this is then a chance to get a double pleasure. So here are the films that I’ve found to give interesting life hacks and pieces of advice on how to organize a threesome.
Shortbus (2006)
The advice of the movie is arranging something simple within a space used by people who are extremely careful and accurate in organizing their sex time – the kinksters.
Sophia is a couples counselor who won’t have sexual climax with her partner notwithstanding the variety of poses and practices that they try. Her search for orgasm brings Sophia to the kinky atmosphere of Shortbus club where a couple of the club residents tempt to join their sexual intercourse.
It is not only Sophia who uses the life hack of visiting a kink club in pursuit of “one’s own type of sex” but the rest of the story participants as well – failing to find their kinks on their own, they managed to find them in Shortbus – the space designated particularly for pleasure.
Take This Waltz (2011)
The movie features threesome scenes in both MFM and FMF variants. A young married couple experiments with sex - and group sex as well. The experiments did not contribute to the film characters’ staying together - not only because they did not manage to find themselves in sex, but because they were actually bored with each other. The advice of the movie is: complementing a couple with someone third is a good idea only in case the partner does not make you bored, when the partner on his own brings you joy and excitement.
Y Tu Mamá También (2001)
The film is not only an ironic and picturesque illustration of life and customs in the far-away-from-the-capital-city Mexica that the characters travel through as the plot unravels, but it also conveys the director’s idea that the unconscious sexual ties between two men entail their having sex with the same women. And yes, the men prone to homophobia may after watching this film become even more fierce in their avoiding the MFM format, yet the farther you are from something yearned-for, the more desired it becomes, so my consciousness is clear.
The trick that the female lead exploits to organize a 3some - finding friends that spend much time together and obviously like each other, and seducing them first one by one, then together – is a quite realistic threesome advice one can use for arranging the MFM.
3 (2010)
The zest of the film directed by Tom Tykwer is the plot in that a couple – Simon and Hanna – fall in love with and become lovers of one and the same man – Adam, hiding their liaison from each other. Neither Adam knows anything about the relations between Simon and Hanna. The three-fold lie results in breach of all relationships, and the movie characters fail to overcome the stereotypes of family life until their common interest – Hanna’s pregnancy – helps the three of them meet and unite not only for the purpose of bringing up the child but for fulfilling the sexual desire that the three have between them.
The life hack of this film lies in finding some common interest that facilitates getting over fears and resentments begot by the ready-made opinions about family and sex.
Sex of Angels (2012)
A romantic title and odd naivety of the plot in no way prevent from enjoying the elegance of a dancer Rai’s deliberate seduction of each of the loving couple, Carla and Bruno. A life hack communicated by Rai is sincerity: he does not hide his shortcomings when getting acquainted with Bruno and Carla, he confesses his feelings to each of them right away and his actions make it clear what his desires are.
However the threesome scene happens only after Carla manages to lure Rai into yielding to the two of them together. She uses his own credo: ‘If you're not taking a risk, you might as well be dead”. Carla dares, or, putting it more simply, plays chicken with a strong and stubborn man – and this is the advice that the movie suggests. Moreover, it offers a pleasant bonus by unveiling the world of Barcelona street dancers.
House of cards (2013, S2)
Considering arrangement of a threesome to be a difficult job, muse upon the way this can be done by a president given that relationship is to be kept in strict secret. Therefore the more interesting his seduction strategy shall be! The president and the first lady start with taking their time to verify the adequacy of Meechum, and then let the “victim” come as close as possible to their private life showing him their strengths and weaknesses and leaving the guard no chance to escape falling in love with both of his tempters. All the rest is just a game of a well-designed chance.
The life hack of the presidential couple is getting one to fall in love with them by laying their world open to the maximum.
Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008)
The film is imbued with three women and one man – a Spanish artist Juan Antonio. One would think that Juan Antonio uses the “laziest” method possible – merely suggests a threesome to two beautiful girls. However the Spaniard is not that simple: he has impregnated his offer with the taste, the esthetics and the force of his desire to the extent that both girls finally decided to succumb to it – albeit separately.
However the actual threesome of the movie involves another woman and occurs at her initiative. Maria Elena makes the rival fall in love with her, helping her find her calling, feel her power and skills to the maximum. So, the piece of advice from Maria Elena is: first turn the rival into the lover helping her become stronger and more appealing for yourself.
Wild Things (1998)
The female leads played by Denise Richards and Neve Campbell obviously enjoy the way they affect men when together, but they don’t simply offer threesome to a “victim” - this would have been too easy given their sexual look and the blonde-vs-brunette contrast. Joint attaining of a challenging goal, joint risk – this is what the girls use to bring a man as close to them as possible.
The life hack of the movie is: seduce first to act, and then to sleep. While the audience enjoys the triple triumph with one’s breath bated.
Secret Things (2002)
At first glance the film seems to have plenty of various sex that the title characters use for attaining their goals. Threesome scenes are also there. And thus the life hack of the protagonist seems to be rather dubious. But you are an attentive viewer, aren’t you? So that you can notice that “attaining the goals” is a game that makes Christophe excited – the only thing that arouses him. Christophe tempts Sandrine and Nathalie to threesome by first getting them fall in love with him in turn – the idea that we already know.
The second menage a trois is organized by Sandrine who lures her boss into a threesome that features her and Nathalie. Sandrine contrives the boss’s visit to her place at the moment of her having sex with Nathalie so that after the scene witnessed the “victim” is no longer able to sleep with a peaceful mind. The life hack from Sandrine tells us that “giving up something you don’t know and have never tried is easy”, so that before you offer make sure the person knows what he or she is about to reject.
SENSE8 (2015)
The series’ spectacular group sex scene features far more than three participants. Besides, the authors have communicated a new and unique idea of how such kind of sex can be organized. And though infeasible for repetition, it is totally beautiful and that’s why I shall mention it.
The filmmakers present an idea of “sexual empathy”. And advance a theory of one’s ability to empathize the sensations of someone whom you are linked with in terms of emotional and sensual plane without jealousy and other impeding negative emotions.
Everyone from the group of eight experiences feelings in respect of the remaining seven. This is the link that allows them to feel each other at a distance and “join” sex with people from the outside world.
Marco Polo (2014)
The series shows everyday life of the 13-14 centuries aristocracy: the Mongols, the Arabs, the Chinese, the Venetians. The film offers a chance to see the way the matters stood with sex in the harem and among Mongol warlords. Yet I suggest that you pay close attention to the khan’s wife unusual decision in choosing a female partner for her husband.
If think outside the local context of the Ancient East we might see the concept of a caring wife who uses her intuition and knowledge of the husband’s specific features for finding the best lover to complement their mutual pleasures and delights. This kind of life hack may become an amusing game, a couple’s new and unusual fantasy.
Dreamers (2004)
Theo and Isabelle - the French twins in love with each other – meet an American guy Matthew and lure him into becoming the third one in their weird couple. In fact it is not a proper threesome - though Mathew takes Isabelle’s virginity by the decision of Theo. Theo is acting as a director of a script that the relations between Mathew and Isabelle should follow. And a life hack from Theo implies offering a game in that the one who loses does everything that the winner tells. That is, a kind of bottle spinning for adults.
The entire film plot is based on a game in that one is an actor and the audience of two has to guess a film which scene is being acted. The fractality of the game suggests the film itself to be a kaleidoscope of scenes, plots and soundtracks from other firms that Bertolucci proposes for the audience to guess, as if implying that every act we take and every sex we have is simply a copy of something seen earlier; it’s only that some people do it consciously, while others – not.
Story of O (1975)
A film that resembles the previous one. A threesome here is not just a movie scene. The plot centers on the way a girl named O is being prepared by her lover Rene for sexual satisfaction of another man – Sir Stephan. However it is not Rene sharing his girl who plays a part of the director – it is Sir Stephan who does. It is a sexual game of a lifetime that unfolds between the three participants. This is not a one night stand but full immersion.
The life hack of Sir Stephan tells: seduce the rival by giving him a chance to get pleasure from disposing of his woman. Rene presents his loved one O to Sir Stephan and in course of time he gets a return gift for his willingness to be involved in such an unusual game.
And what is your favorite threesome advice and threesome scene?
The range of plots and seduction methods that one can find in books, movies, sex-evangelists’ blogs and in our articles is wide and varied. And of course you know some more stories, methods and films that offer sophisticated seduction into 3some – so go ahead, use the Fantasy App to share your threesome stories, or send us directly.
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