A List of BDSM Kinks from BDSM Movies

A good movie always gets into the head of its characters, delving into their feelings and emotions. This experience gives viewers the chance to view and understand BDSM relationships through characters' eyes, giving them personal insights into dominant/submissive roles.

We’ve curated a group of films that center around BDSM, and from that group we've created a list of BDSM kinks: a catalog that may bring new colors to one’s individual palette of fantasies and turn-ons, if you will. Get ready to add some new entries to your personal kink list.

A list of movies with a variety of BDSM kinks:

  • Belle De Jour (1967). The slogan: “Luis Bunuel’s masterpiece of Erotica!”
  • The Night Porter (1974) comes with the slogan “The most controversial picture of our time!”
  • Maitresse (1975) promises that “She will open her eyes.”
  • The Image (1975) goes “Beyond The Story of O!”
  • 9 1/2 Weeks (1986) is a film about “Desire. Infatuation. Obsession.”
  • The Spanish Atame! (Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down! 1989) is “A love story…with strings attached!”
  • Tokyo Decadence (1992) has its “Dangerous fantasies.”
  • Bitter Moon (1992) comes with the slogan “Flesh seduces. Passion kills.”
  • Exit to Eden (1994) is a comedy
  • Preaching to the Perverted (1997): “A film about lust, law and latex.”
  • Secretary (2001) instructs you to “Assume the position.”
  • The Piano Teacher (2001)
  • The Housemaid (Hanyo, 2010)
  • Elle (2016)


Some refined BDSM games have been also detected in series such as:

  • Billions
  • Californication
  • Secret Diary of a Call Girl


Here you can find the film versions of some BDSM classics:

Read more about them in the article Sources of BDSM culture: Dominance and Submission in Books.

Secretary

The BDSM participants are Lee, the secretary, and her boss, Edward Grey.

One of the film's most sexual scenes begins with Lee spending three days sitting motionless on the chair in Grey’s office. She does this of her own accord and with a confidence that proves her eagerness to serve at the pleasure of the boss.

This act dispels the stereotype of a sub as a wishy-washy, weak-willed creature who yields to someone stronger. Only one who is confident in their desires and goals is able to show oneself in a "bad" light to friends, foes, and the family for the sake of getting what they want.

In fact, enjoying the role of a sub is difficult for those who lack self-confidence and self-esteem. Otherwise, there would always be doubts in the back of their mind: Is this what I genuinely desire, or am I just a lapdog?

The list of Secretary's BDSM kinks includes:

  • assigning tasks;
  • fulfilling tasks;
  • punishing for misdeeds;
  • provoking a sadist;
  • showing no initiative unless permitted.

The Night Porter

The game heats up between the dominant — an ex-Nazi SS officer, and the submissive — a Jewish female sub.

The standard image of a dominant fades away the moment you see how Maximilian dresses, coddles, protects, and admires his submissive. We come to understand that she managed to survive the concentration camp only because of her top.

The SS officer’s dominance is intimately associated with deification of his sub. He worships her. So the humiliation and pain that he causes seem to be a gift to her.

At first glance, the film may look cruel and, in a way, absurd. But this is just an example of 24/7 BDSM-relationships.

The list of The Night Porter movie BDSM-kinks includes:

  • the sub is looking for trouble and runs into it;
  • the sub is being worshipped;
  • walking on broken glass;
  • the sub is chained at home for the whole day;  
  • dancing naked for the dominant’s friends;
  • depriving the sub of contact with the outside world;
  • understanding desires of the sub and fulfilling them.

Bitter Moon

A crazy goddess meets a defeated admirer in a film that represents failed BDSM relationships. This is an example of BDSM actions that kindle no fire, just because the dominant has yielded his role.

People are prone to boasting, but not every man brags at length about "his woman" to a new friend. The way the protagonist of “No honeymoon” – this is what the film title actually implies – describes his passion for and his fear of his beloved woman makes it hard to understand whether he's bragging or complains. But what’s obvious is that he cannot work up the courage to give her to another man. The opposite happens: H surrenders to her, thus depriving both the film characters and the audience of any chance for excitement and arousal.

9 1/2 Weeks

The players are Elisabeth as the toy, and John as the experienced player.

Mickey Rourke discloses the specifics of his character’s BDSM kinks by leaving Elizabeth alone at his apartment. Of course, she couldn't help but snoop. What an amazing provocation! This is a brilliant yet simple trick to involve the sub in your game. Now she is truly guilty!

Taking care of a partner’s growth is a common BDSM game that the dominant loves to play. It teaches them a forward-thinking, empathetic and strategic approach. A dominant needs to learn how to truly understand what their sub is experiencing. When the sub’s every step and emotion become predictable and familiar, the sub becomes an easy part of the game played by the dominant’s rules.

The list of other 9 1/2 Weeks BDSM kinks includes:

  • torturing by suspense;
  • causing embarrassment;
  • coddling the sub;
  • giving easy and complex tasks;
  • provoking an action;
  • a woman crossdressing as a man.

Belle De Jour

Masochist Séverine and her fantasies.

Our dreams often allude to our unfulfilled fantasies. This is what happened to a well-heeled Séverine, acted by Catherine Deneuve. She loves, and she is loved. As the film dawns, she sees a dream, in which a stud-groom whips her on her husband's orders. At the end of the film, after she has ventured out to fulfill her own kinky voyage, the carriage from her dream drives on empty, as a symbol of the fantasy that’s been lived out.

This is the director’s way to demonstrate how our fantasies develop and grow along with us, provided that we act them out. Our fantasies may even outstrip our capabilities. If they didn't, they would not be so exciting, after all. In general, the film comes as an arousing incentive out one's kinks.

The movie provides a vivid representation of the sometimes-fatal problems that can be caused by mistrust, a lack of sincerity, and a mismatch within a couple. Séverine was looking for pain and humiliation, but she did not dare to share her fantasies with the husband, and instead worked in a brothel. She fulfilled her kink but jeopardized her relationship. She denied her husband the opportunity to mutually fulfill their desires.

The list of Belle De Jour BDSM-kinks also includes:

  • whips;
  • dressing in compliance with dominant’s desire;
  • a secret double life.

Diving into the world of BDSM-kinks

We hope that these BDSM gems inspire new fantasies or remind of those you had some long time ago. Maybe after watching them, you’ll start noticing a little more of the subtle ways that the people around you are playing with BDSM.

Sure, this article barely cracks open the door of BDSM kinks. But in case you need a good company, don’t forget that this is what FantasyApp is for.

Learn more about other sex-positive films in the article Alternative Relationships: Lessons From “Smart” Movies

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