Kinky Apps, Kinky Toys and Kinky Sites: the SexTech

 

The Internet and digital technologies of today give everyone a chance to search for personal kinks and experiment with the same. One may think that when in front of a computer we move away from people and sexual development, but this is not the case. The web brings us even closer to our kink:

-      we can read an erotic novel;

-      we can find kinky stories on kinky forums;

-      we can meet a kinkster in a dating app and use private correspondence to find out more about his or her kinks;

-      the details on kinky clubs and kinky parties can be learnt from corresponding  reviews;

-      and the last, but not the least - we can read an article from a kinky blog.

Even if your environment misses experienced kinksters who could tell more about kinky culture, the Internet shares information with those searching. Digital technologies have their own way of taking us closer to the kink we are looking for. The kinky culture operating in online mode is extensive enough to become one’s starting point in learning more about kinks.

Blogs and forums: the kinky communities

The Internet has become a fertile ground for breeding bloggers and sex-evangelists who in addition to writing baldly about their kinks promote the culture of delving deep into one’s sexuality. They encourage our going beyond the comfort zone – both of our couch and that known about our fantasies and kinks. This is their benchmark of sexuality development. Sex-positive kinksters of this type can be found, for instance, on Kinkly.com in annual ranking of most popular bloggers.

In 2008 they launched Fet Life - a social networking website for sex-positive people. A form of kinky community, FetLife is a network where people meet and communicate in compliance with their kinky interests. When registering for the site one can choose one’s personal kink out of 65 proposed. The statistics tells only 10% of the site users to have so far failed in defining their kink. Fet Life visitors clan for talking and meetups, arrange parties based on their kinks and change the mode of their interaction by bringing it to offline. Today the website numbers ca. 4,5 million of active users who have already established 100 000 groups in compliance with their kinky preferences.

Kinky toys

Almost a quarter of American millennials regularly use their vibrating assistants. This is why female orgasm for them is no longer a myth yet reality: the new generation of women knows its sexuality and actively explores it, so that the so called orgasm gap – the term denoting a phenomenon of men having orgasm much more often than women do – is gradually reducing. This can be seen from research findings: a 2013 survey taken among college students showed orgasm to be experienced by ca. 40% of women, while in 2015 this index reached the level of 89%. The contribution of technologies (kinky toys) and sex education can hardly be overestimated when such significant positive trend is the case.

Kinky texting, aka sexting

It is not only liberation and profound exploration of one’s sexuality but an opportunity to arrange interesting “sexed up” kinky chatting that technologies also facilitate.

Sexting (a sex-oriented correspondence aimed at arousing one’s partner) is becoming even more popular. 57% of millennials have practiced sexting at least once, while 7% use text messages as a daily means of exiting each other. Almost half of the respondents (49%) have confessed using their telephones for sending explicit photos and other kind of kinky communication.

It was quite recently that distant sex has become possible, but today the kink of this kind is available in variety of options – from correspondence and video-striptease for your partner to toys we can operate even when thousands of miles away.

Kinky apps for meetings

They are not only contacts of your nearest and dearest people and apps making your life more comfortable that your smartphone keeps. Rather often – whether hidden or in plain sight – it also stores icons of the apps that may boost the kinky side of your life.

Fantasy App is a sex-positive (that is, dealing with sexual fantasies) kinky app that helps find partners by fantasies, share sex stories and listen in the stories of others. Quoting Andrey Yaroshenko, the project creator and mastermind: “I believe sensual intimacy to be stronger between partners who match by their fantasies, those who understand and discuss their desires”.

Formerly known as 3nder, Feeld is an app that having survived litigation with Tinder has changed its name. The title upgrade has not affected the gain in the site service popularity. Initially 3nder was designated for bringing together couples and unicorns – that is, for three and more persons. Today the app has extended its range to embrace other kinks as well. Users fill in profiles by disclosing their interests and see the interests of other community members from theirs’.

Whiplr is an app for those who enjoy BDSM. But for text chatting the app also allows video calls. Whiplr provides an interesting solution of gender determination issue: a user indicates his or her preferable orientation (in percentage) and searches for a partner in compliance with percentage parameters.

Owing to kinky apps we no longer need a long prelude that in the framework of classic dating apps comes as a roundabout way of learning whether a new acquaintance is ready to practice bondage of become a couple’s “unicorn”. Kinky apps save precious time of kinky users and neutralize the feeling of embarrassment: one can set all essential preferences in the profile without any risk of confusing a person who has tried the app in search for one’s “undying love”.

Our kinky future

The emergence of new SexTech products and popularity of kinky apps is a natural consequence of the society positive attitude to sex. Developers follow the trends that include:

-      hook up meetings popularity,

-      development of alternative sexuality and alternative relationship,

-      change of kinky and BDSM cultures’ status from banned to that talked about,

-      reference to homosexuality as a socially acceptable phenomenon.

All above indicates possibility of SexTech sphere further extension.

New generations strive to becoming creators of their life in its every aspect, with eroticism included: they actively establish new content with the help of social networks and apps (sexting, explicit photos), diversify sex by introducing new gadgets and creative ideas and subject traditions to critical reconsideration grounded on individualism and hedonism. Kinky apps and kinky sites serve as instruments of sexual fulfillment and sexual self-expression.

Sex and natural pursuance of self-development establish fertile ground for improvement of one’s sexual experience with the help of state of the art technologies. In the 21 century, even high-end solutions safeguard extension and implementation of our fantasies and desires.

As for the issue of sexuality evolvement in the past, read more in What is a Kink? 100 Years of Kinks Evolution.